KIRWO: should your partner buy your friend’s drinks at an outing?

Hey guyssssss! It’s me again, yazzzzz and i am back with the very first episode of keeping it real with Oreo (KIRWO) a discussion session for real life relatable issues (oh if you are lost, like you haven’t seen the life of Oreofe time table which probably meansssss you are either not loyal or you are a first timer click here to view).

Soooooo without futher adoooo (in Kloe Kardashian’s voice who my father happens to love very much).

Today we do have a steaming topicccccc up for discussions peopleee, it reads: If you are with your partner and he buys you a drink and doesn’t offer to get your friend one too, he wasn’t raised right and you should let him go.

Rolls eyes. The wasn’t raised right part of this discussion or letting him go part isn’t the issue here. If you ask me it’s kind of an exaggeration to/on the matter so kindly forget it in your mind 🤗🤗🤗.

Although i have experienced this scenario like consecutively with my friend’s

boyfriend in the U.S (it’s from a place of love) i attributed it to like cultural difference but seeing this as a “topic” of discuss on American twitter sparked my interest in knowing more about this phenomenon (PHD twitter).

Tea timeeeeeeeeee.

So let me gist you guys on what exactly went down or as i like to say the series of event’s.

So i and like 3 friends travelled to a certain new state in U.S and one of my friend had a boyfriend that had been living in that state for a little while back.

Here we were 4 Nigerian girls bored stiff out of our minds, didn’t know our way around and here comes Mr. B (let’s call him this and by the way i love him to pieces) offering to take us around, show us new places and all what not.

On our first outing we visited a club (more like a lounge setting sha) and trust me when i say i experienced a form of culture shock at the entrance. He payed for a pass for he and his girlfriend and left us to sort ourselves out!!!

It was like hello, hiiiiii, still here please. Call it entitlement mentality or whatever but I mean i don’t expect you to pay the bill after you offered to take us outtttttt but at leastttttt, at the very least put us throughhhhh the whole system since we just got here.

Well we finally sorted out ourselves shaaaaa and i swear, on God, i thought i was the only until i saw the look on the face of my Nigerian sister that told me “nope, no girl your aren’t alone” i wasn’t the only shocked one because to us Ko absolutely make sense.

But you know as the saying goes when you are in Rome you behave like the Romans.

This happened like 2 other times you know before we actually like got the drill.

I don’t know if it’s an American thing or a global thing (i sure didn’t get the memo) but i mean from my little Nigerian experience on socializing (quote me if i am wrong), if you are offering to take me out it means you are by extension payingggggggg!!!! God bless America yea but i am still Nigerian by emmmm let’s say association 😂😂😂.

I mean if my significant other offers to take my friend’s out he sure is payingggggg except if he made it clear to them earlier that it is everyman for himself .

I honestly felt my friend’s boyfriend should have done this while we were back at the house because someone actually got stranded on a later outing because she didn’t know she was going to have to payyyyy.

Which leads us to our topic for next time which is Do Nigerian women depend on men for a good time?

So let’s talk, have you ever experienced this? Do you think it is an American thing or its universal? Been at the giving or receiving end of this kind of scenario? Do you attribute it to entitlement?

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